"I'm transitioning at work, and I'm starting to worry."
I’m not out with my colleagues about my impending transition from male to female. I have a therapist and a good support system of friends, but am starting to worry about what I’ll do if there’s a bad reaction at work. What’s the best way to start this process while avoiding the most discomfort possible, for everyone involved?
I’m really glad to hear that you have supportive friends and a therapist to help you through this. I suggest using that network to find other people who have transitioned at their jobs, in order to make sure that you’ve thought everything through. Especially if no one in your circle has firsthand knowledge about this, you might chat with others online about their experience. In addition, if you haven’t already (and just in case things go awry), it’s probably a good idea to talk to a lawyer who is well versed in these matters. If you plan to stay at your current employer, definitely talk with someone in human resources (and certainly your boss) about finding a way to tell colleagues about what’s to come. Their support is crucial.
What you’re doing is not for the faint of heart. Many people switch jobs when they switch gender identities in order to start completely fresh.
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