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Steven Petrow is the go-to source on contemporary etiquette, as cited by The New York Times, People, Time, and NPR. His sometimes gentle, sometimes snarky, always insightful advice has made him a nationally recognized expert on modern manners. In addition to his three prize-winning etiquette books, Steven writes the “Civil Behavior” column for The New York Times and is a sought-after speaker on all matters of civilized living in the 21st century.

In all, Steven’s the author of five books and is hard at work on a sixth, Mind Your Digital Manners: Navigating Life In An Age Without Rules. His work has also appeared in Salon, the Daily Beast, the Huffington Post, Life magazine, the Los Angeles Times, and dozens of other media outlets.

Steven is also a former president of the National Lesbian & Gay Journalists Association, and his previous books include Dancing Against the Darkness (Macmillan, 1990); When Someone You Know has AIDS (Crown); The HIV Drug Book (Pocket); The Essential Book of Gay Manners and Etiquette (HarperCollins) and The Lost Hamptons (Arcadia).

Welcome to Steven’s site. Make yourself comfortable, don't give it a second thought if you're worried about which fork to use, and if you have a question — Steven likes to call them "Queeries" — send it his way (stevenpetrow at

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